Introduce yourself! Who are you?
Hey there! I’m Talia Gutin. I am a Leadership Coach for 20s women and the founder of LeadHER Project, whose mission is to help women build unshakable self-confidence so they can thrive as leaders of their own lives, relationships, and careers. I believe it is every single woman’s birthright to CHOOSE how they want to live in the world vs. that decision being made for them. While my work is my life’s purpose and passion, I am also a voracious learner and knowledge seeker (I inhale books) and am currently living/working abroad in South America with my husband, which has been a long standing dream of ours – working as digital nomads while traveling our beautiful planet. I am also a triathlete and completed my first Iron(wo)man race in May 2019. The journey of training and racing truly transformed my life, through my unwavering dedication, discipline, and persistence to get across the finish line (and I even did it with a broken arm! That’s another story though…)
Did you always know what you wanted to do as a career?
Yes and No. My work and career continues to evolve as I do. I’ve always been deeply curious about understanding the world, our place in it, and how to make the most out of this lifetime. I also never shied away from taking a non-traditional life path. When most of my friends were getting jobs after college, I understood that in order to figure out what I wanted to do, I needed to first understand who I wanted to be. So, at twenty two, I began my journey of traveling the world, studying Yoga, meditation, reading hundreds of books, and enrolled in every program and certification that called to me – Coaching, Leadership, Somatics, NLP, Tony Robbins Seminars, Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, Shadow Work, and many (many) more. Creating my business was one of the most natural processes of my life. At some point, it just became clear to me, that I had done enough of my inner work and growth, and all I wanted to do was externalize my work and share it with other women. The latest expansion to my career will be starting graduate school this fall, where I will study the impact of individualism as the foundation for female leadership. At my core, I’m most interested in applied philosophy – taking ideas and LIVING them in action.
Were you scared to start the process?
Of course. But I gave more attention to my courage than my fear. I connected deeply to my WHY, and kept putting one foot in front of the other, with fear alongside me. I’m not afraid of my fear – it fuels me and signals that I’m headed in the right direction.
What is one thing no one really knows about you?
As a middle schooler, I was obsessed with Buffy The Vampire Slayer. I knew the title of EVERY single episode (all 144 of them) and could recite them on command. Looking back, I was so inspired by the bad ass, independent, and brave character of Buffy. I think my obsession with that show helped ignite many of my beliefs about what it means to be a strong woman in the world.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
When I was traveling in my early twenties through SE Asia, I found myself with a group of people who were into heavy drinking, and it was upsetting to me because my desire to travel was fueled by a longing to feel connected to myself and the world, not to spend my nights partying. I called my older brother on the phone one night, and vented to him about what I was feeling. I’ll never forget what he said to me: “T – do you. Whatever that looks like, whatever that means to you. This is your time right now, so do it your way.” This advice shifted the course of my travels, and inspired me, from that moment onwards, to speak up for my needs, and make decisions that honored my desires.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Experiment. Experiment. Experiment. Try everything. Go everywhere. Meet everyone. Learn everything you can, read everything you can, try on different beliefs, date different types of people. Because it’s when we experiment with all of what life has to offer that we get to then carefully choose what feels the most true for us. Where we get to decide what it is we’re really called to, where to focus our attention. I believe that life, particularly in our twenties, is about trial and error. We can get closer to what we want by eliminating what we don’t want. AND, of course, above all else: listen to, trust, and act on your intuition.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
Hmm. Yes, I have. But not through any fault of their own, more because my actions couldn’t be understood (and didn’t need to) by anyone besides me. I think that doubt from others actually motivates me, not because I need to prove anything to anyone, but because it helps to reinforce my own self-trust and belief in my potential.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
How you respect yourself is how you teach others to respect you. I believe self-respect is the foundational pillar of the independent woman.
Have you always had confidence in yourself?
For the most part, yes. There have absolutely been periods of time in my life when my confidence was shot, and I had to work to rebuild it. And each time, it was only strengthened. My interest is in building deep intrinsic self-confidence. The type that can’t be touched by any external source, and requires nothing beyond my own self-approval. So while I always marched to my own beat, and showed up externally confident, I think my work over the last 10 years has been about developing deep, unshakable, untouchable, intrinsic confidence.
What do you love most about yourself?
I respect myself, unconditionally. I know how to take a stand for myself by setting healthy boundaries, expressing my needs, and taking consistent action towards my goals and dreams. I also love that I strive to live with integrity. I want to LIVE what I stand for, not just talk about it. I strive for alignment between my values, thoughts, words, and actions.