Introduce yourself! Who are you?
I’m a Bangladeshi American Muslim girl. I’m an Associate Buyer, a dancer, a writer and an avid explorer of all the things life has to offer.
What is one thing people don’t know about you?
I share the same Myer’s Briggs personality type as former President Obama and Oprah. This is probably one of the coolest things I’ve ever discovered about myself.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
A good friend told me that fear is just the devil holding you back from reaching your full potential and fulfilling your ultimate purpose. Since then I’ve looked fear head on and done things that used to scare me because I refuse to be held back from what I was always meant to do.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
I would tell her to learn to love herself the way she loves the world. I would tell her that she is so brave and incredibly courageous. The world will try to knock her down and make her feel she is not enough. I would tell her to hold on to who she is and never apologize for it. Someday she will understand that the world needs someone with a heart as pure as hers.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
One of the most difficult things anyone has to overcome is the doubt they have for themselves. I spent years hunting for validation from the outside world. I used to allow others to measure my worth for me. Finally, I realized that if I give someone else the power to measure my worth, I am stripping that same power away from myself. It took time and hardships for me to understand that my worth is not measured by anyone else. You decide who and what you are and who you want to be. You don’t need approval or validation from society because everything you seek is already inside of you. It’s just up to you to uncover that.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
I think every woman should know that she is so much more than whether or not she is married or has kids yet. Every woman is a living, breathing miracle with hopes, dreams, and an identity of her own. I hope all women build a life they are proud of. Anyone who comes into it is an addition to their life, not life itself.
What is your favorite thing about where you live?
New York City is organized chaos. I thrive in that environment. I love that there is always so much going on. I used to be afraid that I would get lost in it all, but ultimately, I found myself here.
What do you love most about yourself?
My unwavering refusal to give anything in the world the power to make my heart hard or my soul dark.
What motivates you most?
I am most motivated by the chance to make a positive difference in the world. I don’t want to be known for the position I held at a company or how many accolades I have received. I want to be remembered for how I made people feel and that I left the world a little brighter than how I found it. I was anxious and slightly afraid when I first started writing for Thought Catalog. Once my pieces started to spread and people, women especially, reached out to thank me for sharing my words, I was extremely humbled and knew that God was showing me my purpose. I am motivated by the fact that I can and am making a positive difference for someone out there.
What is your favorite meal?
You can never go wrong with a good burger, French fries, and an oreo milkshake.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
I self-reflect on a daily basis. We cannot change anyone but ourselves. The more we look inside of ourselves and focus on becoming the people we want to be, the more life goes our way. This doesn’t mean that everything will suddenly be perfect. It just means that we will understand how to better handle everything that does happen and find the silver lining in every situation. Self-reflection has helped me understand that life doesn’t happen to me, it happens with me.
If you weren’t doing the job you have now, what would you be doing?
I would split my time between being a baker, a dance teacher, and a mental health counselor.
Have you ever had an extraordinary experience? Describe it!
Plenty! My parents always taught my brother and me to focus on education growing up. I grew to be a diligent, determined, and ambitious person. These qualities and the fire inside of me fueled my desire to succeed and work in the fashion industry someday. I pushed myself the entire time I was in school and got a full ride to college, then ultimately landed my dream job, at my dream company, in my dream city. How many people can say they accomplished 3 dreams at the same time? I no longer work for the same company because I dreamed a bigger dream, but I still self-reflect about my time there and am so thankful for how far I have come. I am still surprised at my own accomplishments when I think about how I’m a girl from a small suburb in Texas and now I’m in the fashion industry in New York city.
My second most significant extraordinary experience was my journey to recovery after dislocating my knee. I was dancing when a split-second mistake with the movement of leg caused my knee to completely pop out of it’s socket. It was one of the most traumatic and painful things I have ever experienced. For 6 months walking and standing were difficult tasks and dance was out of the question. Through a lot of physical therapy, I rebuilt the strength in my leg and knee. Yet, I still was terrified to dance out of fear that I would injure myself again. Finally, I just had to trust that I knew my body better now and how to take care of it. I will never forget the sheer euphoria I felt when I got back on stage and performed for the first time in 6 months. When you get to do something you love that you have been deprived of for so long, you appreciate it a lot more.
What are your biggest passions?
I’ve discovered that I am the most passionate about living life as my most authentic and optimum self and leaving a positive mark on the world. I love to love. I want to guide and bring strength and joy to others. This is what brings me the upmost joy.
Subrina Hossain is an Associate Buyer, a dancer, a writer and an avid explorer of all the things life has to offer.