Introduce yourself! Who are you?
I’m Sarajane, a writer, speaker and podcaster dedicated to helping others to know themselves more intimately and through that develop a loving, compassionate and dedicated relationship to self.
Did you always know what you wanted to do as a career?
As a child I knew I wanted to be a writer but I also often said, “I want to have every job.” In my life, I’ve been lucky enough to do both. I have had so many different careers over the years. From photography to marketing to coaching and now writing and speaking. It’s been a beautiful evolution over the course of the last 10 years.
Were you scared to start the process?
I have always been someone who jumps right in. I’ve often found that fear doesn’t start in the beginning stages for me. It usually comes in the middle as I decide which direction we’ll move as we continue or how we’ll commit to the process moving forward.
What is one thing no one really knows about you?
I’ve been in business for over a decade. I started my first company while I was still in college as a wedding photographer. I love the art of being an entrepreneur and helping others to enjoy that process as well.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
Everything is hard. That sounds really pessimistic but for many years of my life I tried to avoid the difficult or negative in situations or even in people. This simple idea that every job, every partnership, every friendship while beautiful will also come with hardships helped me to stay present when things weren’t good all the time.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Enjoy your life! Don’t worry so much about if people like it or how you’re being perceived. Just live. Listen to what makes you come alive and follow that. Be less open to people who aren’t rooting for you and more welcoming to those who cheer when you succeed and can sit with you when things aren’t going so well. Friendships that prefer for you to stay small aren’t great friendships at all.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
Honestly the larger my platform becomes the more I see people who don’t believe in me. I’ve had to learn to let it wash over me. That’s not the easiest thing to do but it’s the only way to keep moving forward. At the end of the day I have to check in with how much good I’m doing and trust that it is worth it.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
Happiness doesn’t have to be earned. You deserve to enjoy life. You don’t have to qualify your desires or work for your rest. You can simply enjoy being alive.
Have you always had confidence in yourself?
I have always believed that I would do something meaningful with my life and I haven’t been able to rest unless I felt like I was. It took me a lot of years to find a place of neutrality when it came to how I look. We are so trained from a young age that our worth is determined by beauty. It was a long journey of unlearning that message to get where I am today.
What do you love most about yourself?
I love my ability to never give up. My flexibility when it comes to following my dreams and developing as a person. I’m always listening and adjusting and making my life the exact life I hoped I would have.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
I grew up in a really chaotic household. There was a lot of abuse and addiction and poverty. In the midst of that I had a hard time connecting to people honestly and finding friends that felt supportive and loving. My junior year of high school everyone had moved out of my house except for me. I worked every single night, played tennis at my high school, took honors & AP classes and was involved in numerous clubs and my church at the time. I was trying to do everything while my home life was falling apart. I wanted to keep my life together even though I felt alone. I ended up burning out and switching schools for my senior year. I lowered my commitments and learned to have grace for the process of getting to my goal (college) even if it meant doing so in a way that I didn’t expect.
What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned along the way?
Self-compassion and curiosity will always go further than self-discipline. It’s so meaningful to meet yourself with a desire to understand what’s causing the habits you’d like to change instead of trying to control yourself enough to make different choices.
What motivates you most?
I’m motivated by my desire for freedom and ultimate satisfaction. I always live with the belief that I can have the exact life I imagine for myself and take whatever small actions I can take to make it happen.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
Sometimes I’m better at this than others and I’ve learned that there is no true balance. I see it more as seasons. I have busy work seasons where I go all in and focus on whatever project I’m working on and then I have times where most of my attention is going to my family or to my creative energy. In my day to day life I do my best to not let others dictate my day. I don’t check my email all day long, I hide my phone, I have a morning routine that starts before our son wakes up. I truly believe this helps me to feel more balanced and to get more done in less time.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
I write every single day and have since I was 9 years old. Getting all of my unfiltered, messy and disorganized thoughts out onto paper every single morning helps me to get oriented and clear before I ever start my work day.
What is one thing people would be surprised to hear about you?
I once kissed a ram. A live ram. It was for a high school pep rally. In another pep rally I ate a cup of jalapeños and attempted to drink a gallon of milk. I don’t think I have the muscle that lets you back down from a dare.
Who is your biggest role model? Why?
Glennon Doyle Melton. I love the passion for which she lives life and the way she fights for those who don’t have the voice to fight for themselves. She does real active humanitarian work all while making us laugh and challenging our complacency.
Where do you find inspiration?
In the silence. I think the loss of inspiration happens when the balance of consuming and silence are off. If we aren’t alone with our own thoughts there’s very little time to hear what they have to say. However if we don’t consume engaging and interesting content ( my favorite way to do this is catching a matinee) than we aren’t giving ourselves enough perspectives to think of things in a new way.
ALSO – traveling alone is the most magical way for my to be inspired and often brings instant creativity into my bones.
What are your biggest passions?
– Connecting people to themselves and watching them flourish.
– Traveling to new places and hearing the stories of strangers.
Sarajane Case is a writer, speaker and podcaster based out of Asheville, NC. With an instagram account of over half a million followers (@enneagramandcoffee) , a podcast that regularly stays at the top of the charts in self-help and a book coming out in April of 2020 Sarajane is a rising leader in the self-help industry.