Life Often Throws You a Curve Ball

with Lou Kirby

Introduce yourself! Who are you?
A few years ago, I hit my 40’s. I spent some time reflecting on my life. Was I where I wanted to be? Had I achieved what I had wanted to? In all honesty, I wasn’t sure.
 
I realised that lack of confidence had affected many areas of my life. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t acutely unconfident – if you met me, you would probably say I was a confident person. Deep down though, I knew that I had held myself back. I would often doubt myself, over-analyse, over-question, seek other people’s thoughts and opinions.
 
When I was pregnant with my son, my mum died in an accident. Life ‘events’, if I can call my mum’s death that, make you re-evaluate and realise that you are not immortal. They give you a whole new perspective on things. I swayed from being utterly terrified that something else would happen to being completely freaked out that I wasn’t living my life to the full.
 
I got to thinking about how I treated myself. Why was I being so harsh on myself? Why was I holding myself back? Why was I being nice to everyone around me but not to me? Surely, there had to be a better way of being? I talked to friends and released that many of us were guilty of constantly believing we weren’t good enough and putting ourselves way down the priority list.
 
I decided to do something about it! So I set up an online community for women – Woman Ready (womanready.com) to help inspire, support and empower us to be the women we want to be but to also talk about the issues we face as women today. We talk hacks and advice on work, career, emotional well-being, body and health.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Control what’s going on in your head and have confidence in who you are. Self-belief impacts so many areas of our lives – work, how we feel about our bodies, relationships, happiness, and much more. For me anyway, it’s an ongoing process….
What is your favorite thing about where you live?
It’s a pretty small town so I know a lot of people and I like that feeling of belonging. We’re close to a larger town and to the countryside as well – so the best of both worlds. Not loving the English weather that much though we did just have an amazing summer!
 
What do you love most about yourself?
Gosh, I’m not sure. I’m on a mission to love my body as it is! After 2 kids and as I get older, my body has changed a lot.
 
What is the biggest thing you’ve learned along the way?
That life turns out different to what you think. I tended to have a lot of expectations about how things would work out. I realised that life often throws you a curve ball and things don’t happen as you had planned. Sometimes this is a good thing. You just need to be open to stuff.
 
Why do you love to travel?
I used to travel a lot with work in my 20’s/30’s. I travelled all over the world and just loved it. I don’t do as much now but try to go to a few new places every year. It’s just good to see the world!
 
How do you manage your work-life balance?
By realising that you can’t do everything, all at once. You have to get better at saying no to things and put some time aside for yourself too (otherwise you’ll go mad!)
 
What is your favorite meal?
A roast dinner and a nice glass of wine.
 
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
Set goals.
 
What are your biggest passions?
My kids, my husband, my business.

More About Lou

Lou Kirby is a professional coach and founder of the online community WomanReady.com. She decided to set up Woman Ready to help inspire, support and empower us to be the women we want to be but to also talk about the issues we face as women today.  Join us for hacks and advice on work, career, emotional well-being, body and health.

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