Introduce yourself. Who are you?
I am Lauren, Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, a renowned international executive life coaching company. My new online coaching course, Inner.U, contains the entirety of The Handel Method, a methodology endorsed by Hugh Jackman, Forest Whitaker, Dr. Mark Hyman, and more. Visit InnerU.Coach.
What is one thing no one really knows about you?
While some people subscribe to astrology, I prefer numerology. And, of course, not just my own numbers, other’s as well. In particular, I like to find out a person’s Life Path number.
If you’re remotely curious, in a nutshell (a small one!), the Life Path is the sum of the birth date. This number represents who you are at birth and the native traits that you will carry with you through life. The Life Path number describes the nature of this journey through life.
Personally, my Life Path number is a 22. My husband’s is a 44. Both of which are “master numbers.” The nickname for my master number is a “spiritual master builder,” someone who came to work for God, like a business builder of spirituality. I mean, how perfect, right? I have to laugh at it, because I feel called out. Whereas, my husband, a 44 is a “master of the physical universe.” And, if you ever had the good fortune to meet my David and his innate ability to master any sport, to build anything, you’d be like…holy sh*t, this number thing might just be right.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
The best advice I ever received was from one of my earliest bosses and mentors. Her name was Joanne. In response to an overall fear I had re: having enough time to get to everything in life, especially kids. She laughed. It didn’t hurt that she also had a big, great, and memorable laugh! She said, “You have time for everything. It’s just how you relate to it.” In that brief (ha) moment, my life changed. Three children later, a career, and then some, she was right.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Stop lying! The less you do of it, the better it will be later. You might want to give it a rest. It’s a sign of not being happy.
What is your greatest fear?
Barring the dark and obvious fears (i.e. any people I love madly, die young), my greatest fear would be if I blow my dream and don’t get to fulfill on all that’s possible for Handel Group.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
Oh please. All the time. Still do. It makes me feel challenged, hurt, and actually okay that it’s OK to be polarizing, that all things and people don’t fit. This lesson has gotten easier over time. I guess the more success you have, the less it stings.
What is it like to be a businesswoman?
In this era, when women are feeling, more than ever, that they need to rise badly, I take a look at my roster of clients. And I realize that most of them are highly successful men. Meanwhile, here I am coaching the highly successful from my bed, so I can be near my kids, and, truth be told, my clients love it, get it, and appreciate it. I’m neither hiding who I am nor being unprofessional. In fact, I have proof everywhere that as a businesswoman myself if I try not to make it with men, but make it as myself, I’ve got this. We all do. We just have to be willing to see it, say it, and prove it.
What is your favorite thing about where you live?
I live on 11 acres, in a 1790s farmhouse with chickens, children, and a husband who has dirt bikes and tractors. I live like a hillbilly and I love it. It feels very much like camp (or, okay, witness protection). Sure, I may resent winter a bit, but I also respect it.
What do you love most about yourself?
I love that fact that I can be both brilliant and an idiot at times. Sure, like any other human, I have a list of where I am lacking or can be a nincompoop, but, at the same time, I can inspire people and impact the planet. I love that I have come to realize and teach others that self-love has nothing to do with being great at everything. Whew.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
Over the years, I’m embarrassed to admit I’ve made mistakes with people who I thought were very important, who I gave a lot of weight in my life, but who, ultimately, didn’t have my back. I had to confront my part in the relationships’ flaws, learn my hard lessons, and deal with my own picker, as we all do.
What motivates you most?
Reaching people, finding people, and helping people. I really have a deep, crazy love for what’s possible for humanity and I want to hear every last f*cking story and help everyone see what they’re not seeing and realize how powerful they are, inside.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
I follow very real, self-made practices, and policies. As I teach others how to make promises to themselves and keep them, I have mine, as well. I don’t work too many hours. I hang with my family. I plan my time in actual time and I make sure it’s balanced. After all, time is my life’s currency.
What is something on your bucket list?
On my bucket list is traveling with my husband in a goofy RV to the most beautiful, most remote parts of the planet, while making art.
Who is your biggest role model? Why?
There are several contenders. It’s the Oprahs, Obamas, Buffets, and Gates of the world, who are authentically committed, massively productive, and are moving the needle for good on earth in their one lifetime. Needless to say, there are certainly not enough of them.
Where do you find inspiration?
I find inspiration in people causing real change in their lives, losing the weight, discovering self-love, self-respect, and taking over their minds. The minute a person takes over their own narrative and is a hero in their own lives, I’m high.
Lauren is Co-Founder and Chairwoman of Handel Group, a renowned international executive life coaching company. She helps people figure out not just what they want out of life, but how to actually get there.