Introduce yourself! Who are you?
My name is Kristen Froehlich and I am a self-love advocate and healthy living coach. I am also a writer and I am creating my first book as a sexual assault and relationship abuse survivor to help women and men around the world know their worth, heal and see that they are not alone. My mission is to raise awareness through poems and personal stories and empower you to live your best life with healthy boundaries. I am also a world traveler, avid reader, humanitarian, and lover of the ocean.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Everything is going to be okay. Bad things may happen but you are so much stronger than you ever imagined. All the emotions that are causing you pain are never permanent. You will find your voice, you will find your true self, you will find your path to being free and you will not just survive but you will learn to thrive. Never give up. Never listen to the voices in your head saying you are not enough and that you don’t deserve more. You don’t NEED love and approval from anyone else because you are LOVE. Focus on loving you first. Do not let anyone push you down, abuse you, or make you feel small. Walk away from toxic people. You are the only one who knows you best. Trust your intuition. Be fearless and stop hiding your light the world needs it.
What is your greatest fear?
Not achieving my biggest dreams because I was too afraid to put myself out there and continue doing what is uncomfortable and allowing my emotions/anxiety/panic attacks to hold me back.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
Yes. Many times. As a recovering codependent it crushed me. I always wanted to please everyone around me so when someone was unhappy with me or doubted my capabilities I used to tend to beat myself up and believe them. I know better now. I am learning to march to the beat to my own drum.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
You are enough. You are worthy. You are the only you and you are here for a purpose. No matter what you have been through or what trauma you survived, you CAN heal and you CAN transform your life and spread your wings! Your story can change the world.
What do you love most about yourself?
This was always a hard question to answer for me coming from feeling worthless and consumed by toxic shame after my experiences but I am loving myself more each day. I love being an empath, I love my ability to create, I love my vulnerability because it allows me to deeply connect with others, I love how passionate I am to make a difference and I love that my smile is finally REAL.
What is the biggest thing you’ve learned along the way?
If you want your external circumstances to change you have to do the inside work. Work on the subconscious level and stop avoiding all the feelings. I had to learn to stop living as a victim, take ownership of what I can control and move into the mindset of a survivor.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
I was assaulted in college, it took me 11 years to open that trauma face it and begin healing and it led me to stay in some abusive relationships that broke me even more. I hit rock bottom what seemed like multiple times. Leaving one abusive man and targeted by another which ended in a restraining order. I thought I would never find healthy love. I made healing and recovery my utmost top priority. I read every book I could get my hands on about what I went through, did weekly therapy, practiced self-love which was so hard to readjust to, journaled, and started writing a book about my journey through poetry. My life has completely transformed and I’m not even near finished yet. I feel more alive than I ever have before! Healing isn’t linear but the progress and leaps I have made I am extremely proud of.