Introduce yourself! Who are you?
My name is Julie Arballo, most call me Jules. I am an ASU alumni with a Bachelors in English, a fitness and mindset coach, and co-owner of a local coffee shop in Phoenix, Arizona called 3’s Co. Coffee Bar.
Did you always know what you wanted to do as a career?
Yes and no. When I was a child, I always said I wanted to be a teacher, and when I graduated high school I went to college studying business management with the intention to start my own business, but I didn’t quite know what the business would be exactly. After I graduated with my associates in business management, I switched my major to Secondary Education – English to become a High School English Teacher. Made it through most of that, but never completed student teaching; so I changed my major again to just English. Fast forward 3 years to 2016, and I accomplished starting my own business (like I dreamed of at the age of 17) and I began studying to be a personal trainer and later implemented mindset coaching (this is the teacher part that I dreamed of as a child).
I always knew I wanted to teach and I wanted to run my own business so now I do just that, but not in a traditional manner.
Were you scared to start the process?
To start the coffee shop, which I own with my mother, I was not scared to take the leap. I was anxious, but ready. When we began meeting again to make it happen, everything else aligned without us even really searching. I am a huge believer in the law of attraction and the universe working in “mysterious” ways if you will, so the location found us rather than us finding it. Everything happened exactly as it was supposed to.
What is one thing no one really knows about you?
I think 1 big thing most people don’t know about me is that I have a hidden passion for singing and major stage fright when it comes to it. I opened up a little bit about 6 or 7 years ago and started to sing with friends covering songs and I would post accapella videos from time to time, but at the end of the day and still now, I don’t share my voice with the world; it’s an insecurity that I still struggle to overcome. In time. I’ve conquered a lot of fears over the years, but this one still has yet to get crossed off the list.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
If you can control the situation, don’t worry. If you can’t control the situation, don’t worry.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
At age 16, I was a junior in high school just getting over a heartbreak from my 1st breakup and dealing with backstabbing friends, you know, typical teenage stuff. What I would say to 16 year old me is: life is too short to let others’ actions control you. Love yourself first and choose happiness; learn to forgive and let go because these things won’t matter in a year, month or even day. Be grateful everyday, trust the process, enjoy the journey and know your worth. Everything happens for a reason even if that reason doesn’t make sense to you at that very moment.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
Yes, who hasn’t? Feels like shit, but I look back now and realize I was too damn strong to let those doubts determine my choices. Yes, I was hurt about it, but I still kept going forward and believing in myself. I trusted my intuition even if it was just a little bit.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
Love yourself and own every bit of you; embrace your strengths and your weaknesses, embrace your beauty and your flaws. Know that you are enough and deserve your dreams and desires. Never set limits based on society’s view of what a woman should or should not be, have or do. This is your life, create it and live it as you desire.
Have you always had confidence in yourself?
Overall, yes, but I am human and admit that I have had and sometimes still have my moments of low self-confidence. It’s completely normal, but being aware of it is what helps. When I notice the lack of confidence in myself, I take the necessary actions to snap out of it.
What do you love most about yourself?
What I love most about me is my sensitivity and my strong willpower. I have always been a tough yet compassionate human, since I was a kid. A lot of people to this day are intimidated by my personality because I am so outspoken, real and raw. I don’t often sugarcoat anything and am not afraid to give my honest opinion or respectfully disagree with someone else’s opinion. It took me some time to grow and understand this personality of mine and begin to control it, but like I said, it’s always been there.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
I can think of a few in various areas of my life, financial, social, emotional, spiritual. A big hardship I overcame took quite a few years to get through and included a mix of relationship, friendship, and family issues. At 16, I was dealing with my first ever heartbreak experience, then at 18 a 2nd heartbreak plus my parents divorcing. I wasn’t in the right state of mind and didn’t know how to control my emotions so I was consumed by them. I acted out based on those emotions and instead of learning or even understanding how to heal from this trauma, I put a bandaid on it. I ran away from it by drinking and partying and finding comfort with the wrong people. Needless to say, I was a mess. I suffered from anxiety and was prescribed medication to control that plus my asthma came back so I got another prescription for that. It was a spiral. I’ve never been one to resort to medication for any illness unless it was absolutely necessary, so taking the anxiety medication made me even more depressed, and that was my wakeup call. It was time to get my shit together and grow up. I started using my creativity again as therapy; writing, drawing, singing and reading. Eventually started working out again, eating better and drinking less. Still had some slip-ups throughout the transformation, but I was trying, I was determined to change and create a better life for myself so I didn’t take those slip-ups personally. I treated them as tests and not failures. I was changing habits that were ongoing for almost 10years so I couldn’t expect it to simply happen overnight, but I am proud to say it took less than 2 years to really stick to it and prove that I was not that same girl anymore.
What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned along the way?
The biggest lesson I learned along the way was to have no regrets and truly believe in my path in life and all the experiences that happen in it for me. These experiences are designed for me to grow, learn, and evolve. Even though I’ve made some pretty poor choices in my time this far, I regret none of them because without that previous life choice, I wouldn’t have learned what I did to become who I am today. I have learned to forgive myself instead of regret and hate myself for it. I forgive the girl who made those choices and hurt loved ones in the process because of my toxic behavior.
What motivates you most?
The unknown is what motivates me now. The beauty of not knowing what new lessons and blessings the Universe will bring in my path no matter how much or how hard I plan things out. I love that I can now just flow calmly through my life and grow as I go. I accept every experience, good or bad, as it comes.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
Maintaining 2 businesses pretty much takes up most of my time, but I am conscious of where my energy goes and when I need to recharge. The coffee shop is my baby and that is what I primarily focus on growing, and with my coaching business, I maintain at least 3-4 clients at a time which takes about 4-5 hours out of my week. Everything I do is with purpose, but to make sure I keep my cup full so I can continue to give, I utilize free time to do what brings connection to myself. Meditation, reading, occasional writing, or just going out and doing something fun and socializing.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
Meditation and reading. Whether it’s reading the current book and taking notes on it or just reading posts on Instagram from my favorite spiritual/healing artist and writer accounts.
Do you have a mentor? If so, what did they teach you?
I don’t have a mentor. All knowledge gained, applied in my life, and shared with the world is self-taught from books and my own personal experiences.
If you weren’t doing the job you have now, what would you be doing?
I would be committed to being a published author, writing my next book and traveling more often. My next book is still in the works, but with the limited time I have it is taking a while to finish; which I am perfectly fine with.
Where do you find inspiration?
Anywhere and through anything. For my writing I typically get my inspiration from experiences. For my coaching business, my clients are my inspiration. They work so hard and the results that show from what we do together and what they do on their own motivates me to keep going for myself and to also keep bringing on more to my team (little by little). The women I coach are so strong and it fills me with so much joy to see them break out of their shell and grow mentally, emotionally and physically. They bloom so beautifully and glow brighter as their self-confidence increases over such a short period of time. I admire the dedication and commitment they make for their wellness while keeping up with the rest of their life; work, relationship, children, school, etc. For my coffee shop, my inspiration is found through the community. I love being able to network, serve and provide a safe, personal space for people to gather and make 3’s Co. their 2nd home.
What are your biggest passions?
One of my biggest passions is learning and a second one is teaching. As I mentioned previously, as a child I dreamed of becoming a teacher. Throughout my studies for secondary education, something happened that caused me to postpone my final semester for student teaching…not once, twice, but three times. That third time was my sign and eyeopener that this path was not mine to follow. I was 24 years old and started to imagine myself instructing a classroom full of high school students, and it just didn’t feel right anymore. So I changed my major to English to pursue my other passion for writing.
I absolutely love reading and learning more so than ever before now that I don’t have to be tested on the content through a professor’s syllabus. Now I can apply all the knowledge to my personal life experiences and help others in various ways. Posting content with purpose on social media allows me to teach and connect with more than just a classroom full of teenagers. The opportunities are endless as far as who I can reach out to and network with…like with this collaboration here. My desire to be a teacher has cometrue, it’s just not in the traditional manner that I thought was the only option back in the 90s. This is why I had to switch directions on my academic/career path because my lessons are so much bigger than a high school English class. The universe guided me here and I am so grateful for listening to my intuition, following my heart and seeing the signs as I did, and most of all for allowing myself to flow and trust the process.
Those setbacks are not unnecessary at all; they are most necessary to create your story. We are taught to have life all planned out and when things don’t go as planned, we break and are lead to think we failed or did something incredibly wrong along the way. Now that I’ve lived through those planned and unplanned moments of life many many times, I just flow. Do I have a vision? Yes, of course. Will unexpected things happen to open my eyes to a new perspective where I will need to readjust? Absolutely. This is why I am so motivated by the unknown, and I welcome it each and every time. I refuse to waste my energy and time by allowing negative emotions and thoughts toward unwanted events to consume me. The old me did not know how to feel those emotions and let them go. The new me now understands that every emotion, good or bad, must be felt and acknowledged, then let go in order to prevent energy blockage.
Life is such beautiful and precious gift to each of us and if I can help someone realize for the 1st, 2nd, or 10th time in theirs, then I am fulfilling my life’s purpose here. We don’t know how long we will get to be here on this planet Earth, so enjoy every moment and learn as much as possible; love when you can, laugh when you can, cry when you have to, and always find a reason to smile and be grateful.
Julie Arballo aka Jules was born and raised in Phoenix, Arizona. She’s an ASU alumni with a Bachelors in English, co-owner of a local coffee shop in the South Phoenix & Laveen area, independent fitness & mindset coach, and writer.