What Message Do You Think Every Woman Should Hear?
With Em Underation
Introduce yourself! Who are you?
My name is Emily but I go by Em. I’m a 24 year old dog mom, feminist, grad student, and body positive blogger.
What is one thing no one really knows about you?
I have a soundcloud where I sing cover songs with the help of my awesome friend, Mike.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
Honestly, it would have to be from my mom and grandmother, who have both taught me the importance of taking life one day at a time. It’s easy to get caught up in the future, but living in the moment eases my anxiety about getting older and not knowing if I have my life together.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Oh gosh…. So many things. Mostly— it’s okay to be you. And don’t date that guy when you go to college. It’s not worth the years of your life you’ll never get back wondering what you did wrong.
What is your greatest fear?
Not being accepted by the people I love. And bugs.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
The most prominent times I’ve had people doubt me is through break ups. Someone outright telling me that I’m not good for them or I’m not amounting to anything. Honestly, most of my best “glow-ups” have been out of spite of those who doubt me. In the words of Michael Scott, “You have no idea how high I can fly.”
What message do you think every woman should hear?
That you don’t have to live your life in a mindset of “when I lose this much weight I’ll be happy” or “when I get this job I’ll be happy.” The women who are simply happy to exist in the state they are currently in are some of the most courageous I know. Living life by “when I get there” is not only super demeaning to your mental health, but is also a horrible way to live. Until about 6 months, and even now sometimes, I think those thoughts. It used to run my life. Being able to let go of that and just be happy the way I am has been the biggest change in my life. You’re always allowed to strive for more and aim to be the best version of yourself, but your happiness isn’t a timeline. It doesn’t start when you hit the finish line. It’s right here, right now.
What is your favorite thing about where you live?
The food! Columbus has amazing food. Also, Ohio in general is an awesome place to live. Ohioans are so different that people from other states– especially if you’re like me and went to Ohio State. There is a sense of state pride. I’m from Cleveland, so I am also a huge a huge Cleveland sports fan, so having that has been a huge part of my upbringing.
What do you love most about yourself?
I love my resilience. I have been through some horrible situations in my life, but adversity has defined me and made me the person I am today. Without everything I’ve been through, I think I wouldn’t have the courage to be as vulnerable as I am. I am most proud of the times I’ve been knocked down and have gotten back up stronger.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
Living in a bigger body is a breeding ground for being knocked down. By society, men, other women, family members, etc. Being able to hear the things I hear and be treated the way I am as a plus size person and still be able to look at myself in the mirror and be like “I’m cool with this” is the biggest obstacle I have been able to overcome in my life.
What is the biggest thing you’ve learned along the way?
Life goes on with or without you. Time doesn’t stop for you to lay around and allow your situation to take over. I live with anxiety and depression and I have had days where I haven’t been able to get out of bed. But, I always do. That’s the most important thing. Take time for yourself, take time to heal. But ALWAYS get back up.
Why do you love to travel?
I love experiencing new things. It also feels glamorous, which I love. I really enjoy being able to visit new places and explore. I think my favorite part about traveling is traveling alone. My boyfriend won’t like that I said that (LOL!) but it truly helps me rediscover myself. Sometimes you just need a nice solo drive or trip. It’s good for the soul.
What motivates you most?
Other women in my life. Seeing the badass women I surround myself with motivates me beyond measure. Also, the women I have in my “Sincerely, Beautiful” group. They motivate me through their vulnerability and courage.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
Truly I think work-life balance is such BS. Work takes over my life in the best way. I absolutely love my job working with students and helping them grow professionally. My personal life is still awesome and I have time for friends, my boyfriend, and my dog. There is no such thing as balance in my opinion– just really good planning and organizing. It’s getting through every day the best way you know how without losing your damn mind!
What is your favorite meal?
Tacos. All of the tacos.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
I write. I write everything down. I also listen to podcasts that challenge my way of thinking politically and as a young professional business owner. I listen to other women and their stories and learn from them. I have grown so much from them. I am also in the process of being trained on coaching in intuitive eating, so I have been taking some online courses here and there to become certified. That has given me a more clear sense of what I want to do in the long run.
What is one thing people would be surprised to hear about you?
I’m a very emotional person. Pretty much everything makes me cry happy or sad tears. I cry like once a day!
If you weren’t doing the job you have now, what would you be doing?
I would be coaching women full time and helping them become free from diet culture and societal pressures to be perfect.
What is something on your bucket list?
To go to Europe and visit my homeland of Slovakia.
Have you ever had an extraordinary experience? Describe it!
I lived in D.C. for a summer back in 2015, and one night, a few of us decided to walk to all of the monuments at night. We ended up on the back of the Lincoln Memorial just starting out at the beautiful city and Arlington National Cemetery. We all just talked about life and really bonded in that moment. I had so many beautiful moments that summer and I am so thankful for them.
What are your biggest passions?
My biggest passion is helping others. I majored in Public Affairs in college, which basically means learning how to be an effective public servant. I truly feel called by the universe to help others on this Earth— I think that’s why I was put here. I try to take all of my energy and focus it on helping others reach their goals and be there for those who might need me.
More About Em
Em Underation is the plus size and body positive blog owner of Sincerely, Em. From Columbus, OH, she has begun her journey with intuitive eating and health coaching. She loves her puppy Fenton, her partner Jacob, amazing tacos, and all the red wine. She runs a body positive group called “Sincerely, Beautiful” where women of all shapes and sizes come together to support and love each other.