Introduce yourself! Who are you?
Hello! My name is Demi Lucero. I am a 27 year old truth-seeker, over-thinker and recovering alcoholic. I run a blog at www.mindfultimes.co where I write about my struggle with alcohol abuse and offer encouragement to anybody who is considering sobriety as a way of life. Alcohol and alcoholism are such taboo topics that most people feel uncomfortable addressing or acknowledging, but the reality is that most people who drink aren’t satisfied with the way it makes them feel. I’ve created a community of open-minded, supportive and non-judgemental individuals who all share the same goal which is to take back control of their lives.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
I would say – “all of the pain and suffering that you are experiencing, and will continue to experience, are for a greater purpose. I wish I could take it all away, but if I did that, you wouldn’t become the woman you are meant to be. In order to have the perspective, tools and knowledge necessary to carry out your life’s mission, you must experience these hard truths. Have faith in knowing that you will one day look back and feel grateful.”
When and how did you decide that you wanted to quit?
It took me many years of trying and failing to get sober before it actually stuck. Like most people, I was terrified of the idea of giving up alcohol forever. I had built my life, relationships and friendships around alcohol and I felt that if I gave it up forever I would be giving up all of those things as well. My life as I knew it would change completely. It was this fear that kept me in the this toxic cycle that was ruining my life. After each “episode” or “blackout” I would vow to never drink again. Sometimes I’d go a few days, sometimes a few weeks and even sometimes a few months. But I always went back to the bottle. When people ask me how I finally got sober, all I can really come up with is the cliche “I got sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.” Alcohol had drained my soul and turned me into a person I no longer recognized. I was fed up with living a life not in alignment with my true self. I finally made the decision to give up alcohol for good and once I made that firm decision, alcohol lost all power over me. I decided that anyone or anything that wasn’t supportive of my sobriety had no place in my life. From that moment on, I’ve watched my life blossom.
What do you love most about yourself?
I love my self-awareness, my compassion and my ability to see a world that is suffering and have the strength to harness my fire and passion to help heal it.
If there are others who feel the same as you, what would you like to tell them?
If you struggle with alcohol, just know it’s not your fault. It’s not some fault in your DNA, you are not “broken” and you can get through this. A lot of things in your life may need to change to get there and I may seem scary, but what waits for you on the other side is so worth it. Alcohol has taken your power and it’s time to get it back. This is YOUR life, YOU are in control and YOU get to choose what and who gets the privilege of being a part of it.
What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned along the way?
That we need to heal. As a community, as a collective consciousness, as human beings, we need to heal. We are all so full of hurt and pain and instead of leaning into it we run away. We use things like drugs, alcohol, food, work, pornography, television etc. to temporarily “escape”. These feelings are inescapable and will manifest in your life in harmful ways. It’s time that we dust ourselves off and prepare for battle. It’s time that we take back what we lost and go to war for our freedom. Alcohol won’t control us.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
I practice gratitude. I look at my past and I say thank you. Thank you for the pain I experienced. Thank you for the struggles. Thank you for the people in my life who support my sobriety. Thank you for the opportunity to hit rock bottom and pull myself back up from the ashes. Thank you for the opportunity to rebuild myself and my life. Thank you for my strength to be able to help others. I am grateful that I was given a chance to become my true and authentic self.
What was the first thing you did after realizing you needed to get sober?
I broke up with my partner of three years. This relationship, on top of many other things, were keeping me stuck in my addiction. I knew all along that if I stayed, I would never be able to get sober. I had build my life around alcohol and knew I’d be giving up a lot to get sober but ultimately my sobriety, my happiness and my life became more worth it to me than staying stuck where I was at. I made my sobriety known to everyone in my life and let them know that they could stay and be supportive of my sobriety or we would have to go our separate ways. I realized real quickly who truly loved and cared about me and who wanted to see me succeed.
What’s the hardest part about recovery?
Healing. Facing the demons. Leaning in to the pain and discomfort that I’ve been running from for so long.
What’s the best part of being sober?
Healing. Ironic right? I am here to tell you that the hardest part about sobriety is also the best part. Unpacking all of the shit that we’ve been hiding away and keeping inside of us. Allowing myself to feel it and heal it has been the most beautiful experience. This is true transformation. This is how we begin to blossom into our highest potential. This is how we become the truest version of ourselves.
Describe sobriety in three words.
I only need one. FREEDOM.
Demi is a truth-seeker, over-thinker and recovering alcoholic. She created her blog, Mindful Times, to share her experience, the experience of others and to offer tools and resources to help guide you through your journey with sobriety.