The best advice that I’ve received is that you cannot rely solely on motivation to get to your goals, because motivation is influenced by emotion, and emotion isn’t consistent in humans. Therefore, you cannot be consistently motivated. But when you form habits, on the other hand, that’s where the consistency comes from and how you’ll get to your goals.
Pay attention to what truly brings you joy, and do it often.
Pay special attention to your thoughts too. And when you catch yourself in a negative thought —ask yourself, “Where is this thought coming from?” Dissect the thought and try to get to the root of it. Because every single thought comes from a certain place inside you, and you won’t be able to hear it if you’re not in tune with yourself or if you don’t make time to listen to them.
You truly are a product of your own thoughts. You have to be very aware of what you are repeating in your mind, unconsciously and consciously, and decide if you want to continue those thoughts or replace them with better ones. The key is to actually be aware of them first. I think often times we brush thoughts off thinking they’re insignificant, but some end up controlling important aspects of your life- your career, how you feel about yourself, relationships, etc.
There will be times when people doubt you, but you can never doubt yourself.. When I first started my blog, I would ask people I knew if they can support me and share it. One person in particular just brushed me off, and then when I started landing speaking gigs, made front page of 2 newspapers, and started being featured everywhere — that same person that brushed me off asked me to be a guest on a project they were working on.
No matter what life has thrown at me, I came out at the top — and I believe you can too. Just remember, as a woman, you are the most incredible species on this planet, and no matter what life throws at you — you will come out on top.
Asia Hilario is a Motivational speaker, Philanthropist, Women empowerment, mental health & wellness blogger, Crisis Counselor for CrisisTextLine, and Recipient of the 2019 Woman of the Year award by Women on the Rise South San Francisco.