Introduce yourself! Who are you?
Asia Hilario, women empowerment, mental health & wellness blogger. Born & raised in the Northern Marianas Islands and moved to the US as a teen. Half Chamorro, half Filipino. Mental Health advocate, philanthropist, entrepreneur.
I love: Game of Thrones, tennis, home makeover shows
Did you always know what you wanted to do as a career?
I actually didn’t until this past year. As an Asian American, I was pressured to pursue a career in the medical field, but I later figured out it wasn’t for me.
Were you scared to start the process?
Yes, for fear of rejection from my family and for safety reasons (as in, the medical field is a safer, recession-proof route as opposed to being an entrepreneur)
What is one thing no one really knows about you?
I have a phobia of frogs. I can’t even look at a picture of one.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
The best advice that I’ve received is that you cannot rely solely on motivation to get to your goals, because motivation is influenced by emotion, and emotion isn’t consistent in humans. Therefore, you cannot be consistently motivated. But when you form habits, on the other hand, that’s where the consistency comes from and how you’ll get to your goals.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Pay attention to what truly brings you joy, and do it often.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
When I first started my blog, I would ask people I knew if they can support me and share it. One person in particular just brushed me off, and then when I started landing speaking gigs, made front page of 2 newspapers, started being featured everywhere, they asked me to be a guest on a project they were working on.
It just showed me that people only wanna hop in on the ride when they know you’re going somewhere and when you’re at the top.
It made me value my genuine supporters. Ones that believed in me from the beginning when I didn’t have any noise around my blog!
What message do you think every woman should hear?
Really pay attention to your thoughts about everything. And when you catch yourself in a negative thought- ask yourself, “Where is this thought coming from?” Dissect the thought and try to get to the root of it. Because every single thought comes from a certain place inside you, and you won’t be able to hear it if you’re not in tune with yourself or if you don’t make time to listen to them.
I think often times we brush thoughts off thinking they’re insignificant, but some end up controlling important aspects of your life- your career, how you feel about yourself, relationships, etc.
Have you always had confidence in yourself?
Oh absolutely not. Just this past year I’ve reached a level of confidence in myself that I could’ve never even dreamt up. It took a lot of deep digging and inner work. Dissecting my thoughts (as mentioned in the question before this!)
What do you love most about yourself?
I love my resilience. No matter what life has thrown at me, I came out at the top. I always turn my trials into triumphs.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
Contrary to popular belief, I’ve actually gotten a lot of “no’s” this year. Even though everyone sees all of the “yes’s”, I’ve actually gotten more no’s. I knew this year I wanted to take more risks, and that I would be faced with a lot of no’s so I read a ton of books and listened to podcasts related to how to deal with rejection and it helped me bounce back SO much this year. I don’t fear no’s any more because of it!
What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned along the way?
The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that you truly are a product of your own thoughts. You have to be very aware of what kind of thoughts are being repeated in your mind, unconsciously and consciously, and decide if you want to continue those thoughts or replace them with better ones. The key is to actually be aware of them first.
What motivates you most?
As crazy as it sounds, I wanna change the world. And I wanna leave a legacy behind that I did just that. I wanna be known as the woman who was an unstoppable force and had a fiery passion to change lives.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
Physically schedule “self-care” time. When you don’t rest your body, it rests for you (burnout)- so just like we schedule meetings, we have to schedule time for ourselves.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
I’ve replaced my music with podcasts and audiobooks. I’m addicted to learning!
Do you have a mentor? If so, what did they teach you?
I have a ton of mentors, different ones for different aspects of life. I love when my mentors validate my feelings, and expand my perspective on everything.
What is one thing people would be surprised to hear about you?
To everyone’s surprise that I’ve told, I actually don’t like being in front of the camera (photography or video). If I can blog without showing myself, I would be M.I.A.!
If you weren’t doing the job you have now, what would you be doing?
My dream job is to be a full-time blogger, right now I’m working towards that and killin it!
Who is your biggest role model? Why?
My biggest role model is my mom. She moved us out of poverty to America for a better life and is the most compassionate, selfless soul I know.
Where do you find inspiration?
I find inspiration in everyone’s stories. I personally love hearing stories of struggle, it gives me more strength and motivation to keep it pushing!
What are your biggest passions?
I love helping women become the best version of themselves. I think women are the most incredible species on this planet, everything we’re given in life we give it back 10x better (when we’re at our best), and that’s why it’s my mission to elevate as many women as I can- because it truly makes a difference in the world when women feel appreciated and loved.
Asia Hilario is a Motivational speaker, Philanthropist, Women empowerment, mental health & wellness blogger, Crisis Counselor for CrisisTextLine, and Recipient of the 2019 Woman of the Year award by Women on the Rise South San Francisco.