Be More Present
with Ashley Pettigrew
Introduce yourself! Who are you?
I am a self-taught Social Media Manager focused on creating a more personable marketing environment. My background is in Communications and Sociology, but my main form of income during my teens and twenties was working in Customer Service and caring for patients in the medical field. This puts me in the perfect position to change the way people think about marketing on the internet.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
If you can’t think of anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” I wish I had taken this one more to heart when I first heard it from my mother as a child! It is always better to remain quiet rather than spout negativity. Not only when speaking to others, but when speaking to yourself. Negative self-talk has serious consequences! I have also found that sometimes when you let others speak you learn more. You can be more present. That, to me, is more valuable than hearing myself talk.
What do you love most about yourself?
My ability to laugh at myself. It relieves tension and makes the world such a nicer place.
Have you ever had anyone doubt you? How did that make you feel?
I actually love it when people doubt me. It really fuels my fire and drives me to show them they’re wrong! I know in my heart that I can do anything if I set my mind to it and when others doubt that, I use it as motivation to work harder.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
Every woman should hear this message: “Self-care is not selfish. It is not luxurious, it is not an option. Self-care is a vital part of living your best life and can be achieved mindfully throughout your day. Be gentle with yourself. When you take the best care of yourself, you can, in turn, serve others and create a more positive world.
What would you say to 16 year old you?
Trust yourself more than anyone else. Stay in your own lane. You can keep your feet on the ground and your head in the clouds at the same time.
Why do you love to travel?
I was blessed to have the opportunity to travel during my childhood. My family lived in several different states and visited Mexico, Canada and the UK on more than one occasion. As an adult, I love to travel because it gets me out of my comfort zone. Traveling also reminds me how big the world truly is and how many other people are out there living a completely different life from mine. There is no other way to gain this type of perspective in my opinion.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
In short…I don’t! I try not to worry about ‘finding balance’ because to be honest, it stresses me out! Women are constantly being told they have to do everything, be everything. A wife, a mother, a caregiver, a businesswoman, a model, a cook, and you better be able to get it all done with no sweat on your brow. How exhausting. Sometimes balance means skipping the gym because you’re on your period and you would rather spend time with your family. Sometimes it’s putting work emails and chores aside, then going outside to run ten miles. My form of balance focuses on keeping myself healthy and happy.
What do you do on a daily basis to grow and move forward?
We are all in a constant state of change, whether we like it or not! Mentally, physically and spiritually we are affected by what happens around us as time passes. In my twenties, I started running and felt like “working on myself” meant going to the gym and taking care of my body. Especially since turning 30, I now believe working on yourself is mental AND physical. The best way I have found to harness the mind-body connection is to practice yoga every single day. Running saved my life. But yoga saved my heart. I reconnect with myself every day when I get on the mat. Am I always the best version of myself when I get there? Nope. But I am learning techniques to accept what is, love myself and focus on positive things in my life. It’s not always total zen, I can’t always quiet my thoughts. But I show up and I practice. It has made an incredible difference in my life.
Where do you find inspiration?
Inspiration is a fickle bird. Well, for me it’s more like a baby deer. If I call for it, it runs in the opposite direction. The best way for me to get inspired is to get outside myself. Out of the car, out of the house, out of the country, just out! Recently I was in Augusta, GA (I live in Texas) working an event booth for a women’s apparel company I work for, Tri Sirena. I had the opportunity to meet some of our customers in person, which isn’t typical for me since I work remotely. I personally got a lot of warm and fuzzies from meeting these women and listening to their stories. But what really inspired me was watching them interact with each other. Some of these women had never met each other before, but they were standing there talking like long lost sisters. Women supporting other women is what inspires me the most.
What are your biggest passions?
My biggest passions are taking care of my family, practicing yoga, and working in my best friend’s women sun protection apparel business. We started as a small startup in 2016 and watching this company build momentum has been so rewarding. I have met amazing women through Tri Sirena that I never would have otherwise. I am so grateful to be part of this community.
More About Ashley
Ashley Pettigrew is a work-from-home Social Media Manager living in San Antonio, Texas. She is engaged, with a wedding planned for October 2019 and has four fur babies. As a 30-year-old woman, Ashley is wise enough to know that she doesn’t know everything, but she has certainly learned some things along the way so far!