You Are Worthy

By Alex Otero

Introduce yourself! Who are you?
I’m Alex! I’m a mother, business owner and blogger!
I co-own Le Party Creations, a party decor company and soon to be online store. I’m also the creator of LoveThatMommy.com, a blog/instagram page that encourages other moms to feel like themselves again! 

My life has completely changed in the last 2 years. I would have never imagine myself having this much purpose. A spark lit up inside me and I feel like I’ve been nonstop ever since. This is something I want all moms to feel, which is why Love That Mommy is so important to me!

Did you always know what you wanted to do as a career?
No! I’ve always been very creative but making a career out of it was unheard of. When I started working, I went straight into bartending and fell in love with the money. I wasn’t even thinking about a career at that point. My sister and I jumped into the wedding industry as a side gig. We tried(keyword: tried) to be wedding planners but it wasn’t for us. Still bartending, we somehow ended up doing party set ups and it became my passion! 

When she got pregnant back to back, that completely stopped all production. We got back into it a little; Then I got pregnant! Eventually we decided to go full force and name the business after our daughters; Layla and Emma Party Creations or Le party Creations. 

I started Love That Mommy soon after to support other mompreneurs like myself. Now there’s all different types of moms that have joined! It’s so awesome to see each one of them working toward something. We’re not your typical mom group though. We laugh, we curse, we work hard…I’m pretty sure we cry because #momlife! 

 We’re always going to be there for our kids, but who will be there for us? Having the support of other women that know exactly what you’re going through, makes things so much easier. It’s a relief!

Were you scared to start the process?
No, I was mentally ready! When we decided to really go for the party business, we were lucky enough to be stay at home moms at the time, so it wouldn’t cost much if it failed. But as much as I love being a mom, I wanted more for myself. A second income sounded pretty good too but I refused to go back to bartending. If I had to make another margarita, I’d probably go crazy! 

This is why I so strongly believe in encouraging other moms to chase their dreams, whatever the objective may be; Starting a business, starting a blog, losing the baby weight, etc. Go for it!  “You were someone before you were their mom and that person matters!” 

Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
I was in a long and toxic relationship with a person that would constantly tell me I’m fat, I’m lazy, I’m not that pretty, I’m not good enough….

I felt so worthless, even after the relationship ended. Those thoughts stayed in the back of my mind for years. I think that’s part of the reason why I didn’t try to do much with my life in my early 20s. 

The wrong person can really bring you down. You will always cross paths with those type of people, but if you’re strong within yourself, they can’t break you. Love is beautiful but sometimes you have to respect yourself enough to walk away.

I’m just happy I came out on top. I’ve always wanted to start an organization for women that are going through what I went through. Maybe in the future though — because I’m not even remotely close to figuring out my own life. 

How do you manage your work-life balance?
 It’s very overwhelming being a stay at home mom because I also run the Le Party’s social media, Love That Mommy’s social media, the blog, and the online store. Each role requires so much attention in order for it to be done correctly. I love what I do though so it’s not really ‘work’; It’s my life! 

Not to take away from the fact that it’s still very exhausting! I thank my boyfriend Robert for being an amazing father and my number one fan. He’s probably the only male following/ liking posts on Love That Mommy and the first to promote the party business!  He’s always giving me my space and taking my dreams seriously. That alone is a huge help! 

 Do you have a mentor? If so, what did they teach you?

I guess you can say my pastor at Metro Life church is my mentor. I’m too shy to go up to him and say hi but I learn so much from him every Sunday! He once spoke about being patient with your dreams. That if you’re chasing a small fish, that will come easy to you. However, chasing the BIG mama fish is hard! You’re going to fight and struggle the bigger the dream, so give it time. I couldn’t agree more!

What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned along the way?
Anything will succeed if it comes from the heart because you’re invested 100%. If you have the right intentions, it will go well for you. Anything after that is out of your control, so don’t even stress it. Enjoy what is, enjoy the process and always thank God for the good and the bad. It’s what got you to the point where you are now and it will get you to the top of the mountain.

Have you always had confidence in yourself?
Not really. I just went with the motions most of my life. I would never try to reach my full potential because I didn’t think I was worthy. It wasn’t until after I had my daughter that a switch flipped! I was so proud of how dedicated I was to taking on this huge role. Seems silly, but she saved me.  

I studied, read books, watched YouTube videos until five in the morning! Seeing what my mind, body, and soul was capable of, pushed me to want to do more with life!  Now every time I take on something new, I’m get excited and ready to learn! Failure is not even a thought.    

What do you love most about yourself?
I love my kindness. It’s a blessing and a curse but my mother raised me to always be considerate of others. I see things through people’s eyes and try to put myself in their shoes. I try to understand. It’s made me very aware of the world.  

 It kind of sucks when I want to stay mad at someone but I always end up letting go and moving on. I’m thankful for that mentality though. You wouldn’t believe how much you grow in that state of mind.   

What message do you think every woman should hear?
Letting others define your worth can be your biggest set back. I wish I didn’t waste so much time seeking validation not only from someone else but on social media. I probably would’ve been 10 steps ahead of where I am now.  

I barely go on my personal account anymore. It’s funny how you can actually see my transition through my photos. I just don’t care for the likes and follows if I’m not growing and connecting from it. I think it’s important to really look at what you’re putting your time and energy into. I grow and move forward on a daily basis, and that’s exactly how I do it.    

Alex Otero

Alex Otero is the creator of LoveThatMommy.com, a blog & Instagram page that encourages other moms to feel like themselves again.

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