I spent an hour in a small room and left feeling small and diminished in my accomplishments and what I had to offer as a coach.
If I had been the least bit more fragile at the moment, it would have been enough to make me quit.
Now don't get me wrong, I can take some criticism or find ways to deal with people who might act like haters, don't understand my business or aren't into what I am doing, but a "mentor"? Someone who is supposed to teach, give constructive criticism, show the way, an experienced, and trusted advisor?
After my initial feeling of being deflated and hurt, I got ANGRY. I could feel my blood boiling inside. I was angry with every thread of my being, something I hadn't felt in a very long time, if ever. I wasn't hurt anymore that she didn't get me, I was angry that I just took this little fragile egg of a business idea that takes so much of who I am and handed it to hands ready to crush it into little pieces or look me right in the eye and drop it on a hard floor. I was angry I was so open and trusted someone I didn't know with my fledgling business. It felt so personal and vulnerable. I was angry I walked in there putting her up on a pedestal like SHE had all the answers and I knew nothing.
I took that anger and turned it into fuel. Fuel that is now part of my "why", a touchstone I can return to every time I feel I am getting thrown off track.
So this is my why- I do this work because I want you to have a safe space to get clear about what you do, a place to cultivate confidence in your business and your unique brand. Safe landings here in the nest before you go out and slay.
I suppose after processing the myriad of feelings I have felt since that day, even though it was an unpleasant experience, I should write her a thank you letter and say, Thank you for the fuel."
Turn your tormentor into a mentor. Don't believe someone else has all the expertise and answers. Develop trust in yourself. You see, the world needs me and the world needs YOU and your gifts and unique talents, even if someone doesn't get it.