What's The Best Advice You've Ever Received ?
With Beata Snelling
Introduce yourself! Who are you?
Realistically speaking, I’m still trying to figure that out myself … What I do know is, my name is Beata (bee-ah-tah) and I’m almost 23 years old. I’m Dominican and Black and a lot of who I am is rooted in my identity of being Dominican and Black. What I’ve managed to learn thus far is, I’m someone who loves making other people happy- and at the moment, it’s been through my writing. I’m a writer… or blogger, I’m a performer, I’m a sister, daughter, friend, lover, a libra, and above all things, I am absolutely insanely infatuated with the moon. I’ve been told before that I’m “simplex” – a mix of simple and complex and it’s really stuck with me ever since so I guess you could say I’m that too. My life as I see it, has been pretty comical and a little tragic at times, but overall really great and through these experiences, I’ve become “Bee” which has opened the door for me to create my blog DreamofBee.
What’s the best advice you’ve ever received?
The two quotes that comes to mind are, “Nothing worth having, comes easy” and “What’s meant for you, will always be for you”. They are constant reminders that anything worth having is worth striving for. If it were easy, it would be for everybody. And they’ve both really been a testament to my faith. I’m learning more and more everyday to be appreciative and patient, remembering that everything that is meant for me in this world will at some point make its way to me. I apply both quotes to almost all aspects of my life and it ultimately reminds me to remain patient in my efforts and to stay present. Instead of worrying about what will be or what wont and what cant, I understand that all will happen when it’s meant to happen as long as I do what’s necessary on my part.
What message do you think every woman should hear?
I think that women need to hear that its okay, not to be okay sometimes and self-love is truly your best friend. I feel like we carry the weight of the world on our shoulders and because of that, we forget to take care of ourselves. We feel the need to be strong for everyone else and we forget that at the end of the day, we need to genuinely love ourselves because I truly believe that nobody can do it better. Loving yourself comes with the knowledge of understanding yourself and sometimes, we’re not okay … but that’s okay because we’ll be just alright. So, take time for yourself when you need to. Listen to yourself, nobody knows you better than you. The love is there, you just have to coax her out a bit, make her feel special. You’ll be truly grateful for her in the end.
What do you love most about yourself?
I think I’m pretty funny. I love my humor and my heart and last but not least, my attitude about life. Sometimes, you just have to understand that “s*** happens” and you kind of have to learn to go with the flow of things. Through it all, never lose your heart and always remember to laugh because nine times out of ten, when you look back at a situation, it wasn’t funny in the moment but after the fact – it’s pretty funny.
Do you remember a specific time you overcame adversity?
This past year was pretty rough for me, mentally and spiritually. No one warns you about how hard life is going to hit you post-grad and the change of environment really took a toll on me. I knew what I wanted to do with my life but the “how” wasn’t as clear. I’m a first-generation college grad so it felt like no one understood what I was going through. Everybody around me looked like they had it all figured out while it felt like I was drowning and just completely unhappy. I began to doubt myself and I had serious post-grad depression finding myself in a really dark place. However, slowly but surely things started getting better, and then I started DreamofBee and it kind of saved me. It gave me something to be proud of, something to look forward to, something to call my own and with all of the love and support that I’ve received because of it, it reminded me of my capabilities and I truly can’t wait to see the journey it’ll take me on.
What motivates you most?
My family, and my friends but most of all, the belief of what could be. I’ve always been a dreamer and I’ve always just seen an extraordinary life for myself and the idea that I could achieve that, it motivates me. When I first started DreamofBee, it was just a blog to showcase my writing to hopefully get me a job working for a women’s publication company. And while I still want that, DreamofBee also became a bigger part of my picture and it started to mean something so much more to me. I want to build my own empire, be my own boss. DreamofBee is me and I want it to thrive and become its own brand while opening all kinds of doors that I didn’t dare dream to open.
How do you manage your work-life balance?
It’s hard to be honest because working a 9-5 can be kind of exhausting. By the time you get home at the end of the day, you’re not really in the mood to do anything but I have to remind myself that my job is what currently funds my passion so that my passion can become my job so you sacrifice. “Nothing worth having comes easy” … remember? I do think it’s important to find a healthy balance though because I write based off of my experiences and if I’m not living then I’m not experiencing and then I don’t have much to write about.
What is one thing people would be surprised to hear about you?
I’m actually kind of sensitive. I’m the first one to make jokes and be upfront about something but when it pertains to people that I really love or care about, I take their words to heart. I think it’s because I love really hard and the people that I love are important to me so their validation typically makes or breaks my feelings.
Where do you find inspiration?
Absolutely everywhere. In my life, in my friends lives, in past experiences, in conversations. Most of the posts on DreamofBee stemmed from conversations that I’ve had and my thoughts led me to write about them. It’s always interesting to me to hear other people’s point of views, even if I don’t agree with them. I’m interested in hearing the “why?”. You’ll find that you can learn a lot about someone when they start to explain why they think the way that they think and I love that.
Why do you do what you do?
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always just wanted to be that voice of reason, or relatability for someone. Growing up, I felt out of place many of times and Demi Lovato’s music used to make me feel like someone understood exactly what I was feeling and that meant the world to me. I’ve always wanted to just pass that feeling along to the next person. When I write, and share my personal experiences or let you into my world through specific life lessons and situations, I do it with the intent that my reader will feel like “wow, I really needed to hear that.” Or “I thought I was the only one who thought like this!” Through DreamofBee, I’ve gotten replies and commentary to posts, where people express that feeling and it really just makes me feel like I’m serving my purpose.
More About Beata
Beata Snelling is a Libra. A lover of frenchies. Obsessed with the moon. A genuine mix of simple yet complex – simplexity at it’s finest. Navigating her sitcom of a life with the laugh track on repeat.